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So I recently discovered a new blogger on WordPress who started her blog in order to take control of her life this year. I can tell she’s been through a lot and her story is really inspiring to me. 

Alex decided that she would set 35 goals for herself this year since she is or will be turning 35 years old. Here is the link to her amazing project. Check it out, her blog is amazing.

I decided that I would give it a try and set myself 21 goals to reach this year in order to stay inspired and be the best version of myself 🙂

So here are my first 5 projects/goals:

1. Practice yoga at least 3 times a week (and set up a good routine for it).
My goal is not to lose or gain any weight, I just want to be fit and more flexible…

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My observations on Happy-New-Year Resolvers and Anti-Resolutionists :)

Today, I’ve read approximately 200 posts about New Year Resolutions.

• About 40% of them were about how useless that is. They say, resolutions never work! This is the voice of learned helplessness.
• Another 30% made huge decisions on changing habits or moods, like quitting smoking or smiling more, or even “be happy every day”. How can being happy a goal? Though it can be a consequence of achieving one’s goals.
• About 20% made jokes about how they will break these resolutions in 2 weeks.
• and the 10% of them have set clearly defined, time-bound goals with more or less planning.

I’ve been all these people in the past. I joked with myself, act as an anti-resolver or walked around like a shiny happy butterfly of hopes and wishes.

Until this blog, I’ve never been so dedicated to my goals. That’s why, making a project of your life far from just wishes, promises to quit bad habits or mood controlled (happy all the time) expectations is quite important.

SOME SAY…

Some say that the goals should be small and achievable. But where is the challenge in that?

Some set goals of habitual transformations including addictions like smoking, or changing their personality characteristics. Where is the fun in that?

RESEARCH SAYS:

According to psychological studies about video games and teenagers, it’s been proven that most addictive games are the ones that are both challenging and funny just above the average. Not higher, not lower.

Noone wants boring goals,

noone wants to start a journey if they think that the journey will suck

regardless of how big the goal is.

I wanted to be happier with myself 15 days ago.

I started a journey of 35 goals to reach.

I was not even sure then, what would make me happy.

I decided to find out what will make me happy on the road.

Please do not set easy or boring goals.

They should make you happy and excited during the journey towards them.

Love,

Alex

modifying goals or deadlines does not necessarily mean failure

When we heighten our goals up for more, we do not feel successful immediately, we just expect more from our capacity.

Same way, if we have to modify our goals on the opposite way or postpone the deadlines, this does not mean that we failed right away.

Modification means adjusting deadlines and level of expectations to make that goal achievable…

So, please do not give up on your goals even though you have to modify or postpone them according to circumstances.

Love,

Alex

Why New Year’s resolutions do not work but goals do?

Hey all,

As a psychologist and a former 10+ yrs experienced Project Manager in Consulting and a woman who really sucks at resolutions 😛 I want to address the ultimate 01.01.2015 problem:

1. New year resolutions do not have deadlines or project plans.

If you do not have a plan or deadline, you will always have tomorrow, next week or month to do it.

Regardless of when you start, you should know when to finish. Also, you should have a roadmap to follow. Roadmaps and deadlines can be modified. There are no rules. But, they should be set.

2. New year resolutions are not clear. 

Do more of this, do less of this are not clear. Define more and less. Use percentages, numbers, counts.

Spend more time with family is not a clear goal. It is a wish. Set the goal with clarity. Spend 2 hours of quality time with family? Not there yet. Define quality time. What do you consider as high or low quality? Maybe you should ask your family and gather more data on clarifying what to do in that 2 precious hours.

3. New year resolutions are too hard to reach because they include changing habits or personality.

Becoming more patient organized cannot be a goal as it is strongly linked to your personality. Do not waste time changing it. It never works.

In order to set a clear goal, discover why you want to be more patient or organized. Where will you use it? Will it contribute your success in your business, your relationships? Then, why don’t you set success in your business or relationships as a goal rather than changing yourself, change your relation quality.

Love,

Alex

Why don’t you start “your own” myXproject.com on WordPress?

Today is January the 1st 2015,

New year, new day!

Isn’t it a good day to start yourXproject.com on WordPress?

Please take my idea (my35project) and use it to help yourself too.

If you want change, start setting goals and create a blog just for these goals.

Focus…

It’s been less than a month since I’ve started and it helped me in ways that I cannot imagine…

People supporting me, a place to tell about me, a place to support others…

Both a voice and the community will help you achieving your goals.

I am very happy about my decision to start this blog. I was such a mess for quite some time. Now, I have a channel to write my progress and people who follows it. This means a lot.

So, just start doing it today, or any day…

Because my new year started with this blog!

🙂

Thank you

Alex

First post of 2015! Not wish but Want a HAPPY new year 4 everyone…

First post of 2015!

I want this year to be the year that I achieve all my goals.

For you, I want the same.

So, do not wish any more.

Want them to be.

Set your goals.

Make a list.

Start today.

Do not over-plan, just start 🙂

Plans will make themselves in time…

🙂

Love, Alex

My first two goals are set with deadlines!

1. Get my health back. Win against Leaky Gut Syndrome, Irritable Bowel Syndrome and Fibromyalgia through healthy diet full of probiotics, aminoacids but without carbs and caffeine. First deadline: Show some progress in 10 days and be energetic on Jan 5th 2015 for my PhD thesis defence meeting. (first posted on 23.12.2014)

2. Be size 4 again, which is my ideal size since I am 5’3” (160cm) and that is tiny :))) My deadline to reach that is end of January 2015. However, I will not do a speed diet or anything. I just keep on what I eat and walk everyday. The goal does not end here of course, keeping that size throughout the year is the real deal. (first posted on 23.12.2014)

New goals will be added as I get more and more motivated!

PS: If I cannot reach them by deadlines I will revise them and keep working on them 🙂

Thanks for the advice :)

I listened to your advice and wash the damn dished, did loads of laundry, clean my house and opened a twitter account and slept for 6 hours. Thanks to dishwashers and laundry machines.

I try to post on twitter and it is quite new to me.

I have a PhD but i am not very tech-savvy as you see. This feels old 🙂

Thank you for the comments Moongazer 🙂 I appreciate it a lot.

I will soon post about fibromyalgia and depression and what to do to cope with them. This is one of my goals this year.

I feel better. 2 out of 10, but better then 1.