My observations on Happy-New-Year Resolvers and Anti-Resolutionists :)

Today, I’ve read approximately 200 posts about New Year Resolutions.

  • About 40% of them were about how useless that is. They say, resolutions never work! This is the voice of learned helplessness.
  • Another 30% made huge decisions on changing habits or moods, like quitting smoking or smiling more, or even “be happy every day”. How can being happy a goal? Though it can be a consequence of achieving one’s goals.
  • About 20% made jokes about how they will break these resolutions in 2 weeks.
  • and the 10% of them have set clearly defined, time-bound goals with more or less planning.

I’ve been all these people in the past. I joked with myself, act as an anti-resolver or walked around like a shiny happy butterfly of hopes and wishes.

Until this blog, I’ve never been so dedicated to my goals. That’s why, making a project of your life far from just wishes, promises to quit bad habits or mood controlled (happy all the time) expectations is quite important.


Some say that the goals should be small and achievable. But where is the challenge in that?

Some set goals of habitual transformations including addictions like smoking, or changing their personality characteristicsWhere is the fun in that?


According to psychological studies about video games and teenagers, it’s been proven that most addictive games are the ones that are both challenging and funny just above the average. Not higher, not lower.

Noone wants boring goals,

noone wants to start a journey if they think that the journey will suck

regardless of how big the goal is.

I wanted to be happier with myself 15 days ago.

I started a journey of 35 goals to reach.

I was not even sure then, what would make me happy.

I decided to find out what will make me happy on the road.

Please do not set easy or boring goals.

They should make you happy and excited during the journey towards them.



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Alex - Project Lady

35 year old woman who has hit the rock bottom tryin to get up again and reach her 35 dreams I am a psychologist who suffers from major depression and severe fibromyalgia. It was all about career to me. But today, I have no job, no husband, no kids. Alone. And, I want to change my fucking life.

20 thoughts on “My observations on Happy-New-Year Resolvers and Anti-Resolutionists :)”

      1. 🙂 I usually happen to be single on that day(!) but if I am dating someone I refuse to do something special or any gifts etc. I go out with my single girl friends instead haha 🙂 Passive protest 🙂


  1. Love this! Yesterday someone told me that their New Years resolution was to not be angry. Creating any resolution tied to any emotion is only going to set ones self up for failure.

    PS love your blog!


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